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 **//Developing Emotional Intelligence//**

FOUR COMPONENTS OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE :

Knowing your feelings in the moment Managing strong feelings Empathizing accurately with other people's emotions Handling emotions in relationships with skill and harmony
 * **Emotional Self- Awareness**
 * **Emotional Self - Management**
 * **Social Awareness**
 * **Relationship Management**

= Knowing Your Own Emotions: =
 * **Build A Vocabulary Of Feelings**
 * **Be Mindful of Emotions as they are happening**
 * **Understand what is causing your emotion**
 * **Recognize The Difference Between a feeling and resulting Actions**

= Reducing Stress: = If we're not careful, stress of one kind or another can bump us off course

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The Process of Living is the process of reacting to stress. Ongoing stress is bad news for our health, damaging almost every bodily system. When stressed the victims' greatest concern is escaping the discomfort as fast as possible.
 * **What** **is Stress?**
 * **What happens when stress Persists?**
 * **Unhealthy stress reduction**
 * **Healthy stress reduction ( Victim/creator) **



= Overwhelm: = Overwhelm is probably the most common stressor for college students.
 * Choose new behaviors:**
 * Separate from an external stressor.
 * List and prioritize everything you need to do.
 * Delete C's ( IDENTIFY WHERE YOU ARE WASTING TIME AND CROSS THEME OFF YOUR LIST)
 * Delegate A'S and B'S. ( EXAMPLE THE QUADRANT TABLE)
 * Keep your fiances organized.
 * Exercise.
 * Get enough sleep.


 * CHOOSE NEW THOUGHTS**
 * Elevate
 * Trust a positive outcome
 * Take a mental vacation



= Anger And Resentment: =
 * CHOOSE NEW BEHAVIORS: **
 * SEPARATE
 * EXERCISE
 * RELAX
 * JOURNAL
 * CHANNEL YOUR ANGER INTO POSITIVE ACTIONS.

Healthy anger declares a threat or injustice against us or someone or something we care about.
 * CHOOSE NEW THOUGHTS **
 * REFRAME.
 * DISTRACT YOURSELF.
 * IDENTIFY THE HURT.
 * FORGIVE.

FEAR AND ANXIETY:

 * CHOOSE NEW BEHAVIORS**
 * PREPARE THOROUGHLY.
 * RELAX.
 * BREATHE DEEPLY.
 * BRING A PIECE OF HOME TO TEST


 * CHOOSE NEW THOUGHTS**
 * DETACH.
 * REFRAME.
 * VISUALIZE SUCCESS.
 * ASSUME THE BEST
 * FACE THE FEAR
 * SAY YOUR AFFIRMATION

Healthy fear delivers a message that we are in danger. Healthy sadness overtakes us upon the loss of someone or something dear.
 * Sadness and Depression


 * CHOOSE NEW BEHAVIORS**
 * DO SOMETHING ( ANYTHING!) TOWARD YOUR GOALS
 * EXERCISE.
 * LISTEN TO UPLIFTING MUSIC.
 * LAUGH.
 * BREATHE DEEPLY.
 * HELP OTHERS IN NEED
 * JOURNAL.
 * SOCIALIZE WITH FRIENDS AND LOVED ONES.


 * CHOOSE NEW THOUGHTS**
 * DISPUTE PESSIMISTIC BELIEFS.
 * DISTRACT YOURSELF.
 * FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE.
 * FIND THE OPPORTUNITY IN THE PROBLEM.
 * REMIND YOURSELF, "THIS, TOO ,SHALL PASS".
 * IDENTIFY OTHERS WHO HAVE MUCH MORE TO BE SAD OR DEPRESSED ABOUT.

When dealing with stress, the critical issue is, //Do YoU mAnAge YoUr EmoTIoNs Or Do TheY mAnAgE yOu?//
 * CHOOSE YOUR ATTITUDE:

= CREATING FLOW: = == Being able to enter flow is emotional intelligence at its best; flow represents perhaps the ultimate in harnessing the emotions in the service of performance and learning. The best career advice to give the young is "Find out what you like doing best and get someone to pay you for doing it."
 * College and Flow
 * Work and Flow

= Developing Self-Love: = Self-Love is the core belief that **I AM LOVEABLE**.

= Design a Self-Care plan: = If we felt unloved as children, we may need to learn how to love ourselves as adults and do so without confusing self-love with egotism, arrogance, or self-righteousness.
 * Nurture Your Self Physically
 * Nurture Your Self Mentally
 * Nurture Your Self Emotionally